"5 year? I don't have a 5 day!"
That's what I used to say to my boss every year when he would ask me, "What's your 5 year plan?"
It was a fair enough question - probably one most organizations ask for succession planning.
I was a fabulous planner. I could strategic plan - short-term, long-term, medium term - you name it! I could dig into the nitty gritty and find the most effective tactics, understand the needle movers and synthesize it in a concise way the most novice of team members would get it. It was a natural skill, and I excelled at it.
When it came to ME. When it came to my career, and more importantly, my life...
I didn't know. I didn't want to know.
Perhaps that disconnection should have been a sign... but I ignored it for years!
The fact that I didn't want a 5 year career plan (and in essence, life plan), may have been more reflective of my desire for freedom, than my lack of ambition. But why?
I was clear, about my lack of clarity.
I knew that I didn't know!
I see the same mistake, time and time again!
It’s holding people back.
It’s causing more frustration and suffering than necessary.
It’s feeding into fears.
It’s something I saw in my corporate career and now it’s all over the entrepreneurial world!
So, forgive me if I come across a little like a rant today... it’s just time to clean the slate and get us all back to why we do what we do, and how it can help us live the way we want to live!
Are you ready for it?
It’s not a very SEXY topic, so it’s an easy one to over look.
Strategies vs. Tactics
I know... I can already hear some of you checking out and skipping to the next story.
I promise you, stick with me and there’ll be a little juiciness for you ;) and perhaps even permission to stop doing things you don't love!
I can’t tell you how many hours of debate I was involved in during my corporate days – when we were strategic...
What are you thankful for?
Not only is it a great practise to be in gratitude for the things in our life, it is also a great guidance tool!
Those things that really ring true to your heart can guide you in making choices for designing your most fabulous life!
When are you the most thankful?
Who is with you when you feel the most thankful?
What are you doing?
Where are you?
And... the deeper question of WHY.
Knowing why you are thankful, can lay some foundation for putting together the pieces of the puzzle that make up your most fabulous life... or can help you add to it if you are well on your way!
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
May your thankfulness bring colour and brightness to your life as these leaves and sunshine are to mine!
Would you wear someone else’s shoes to run a marathon, if those particular shoes had already run one?
After all, the shoes would know how it was done.
They have previously run the full 26 miles and successfully crossed the finished line.
They know how to do it, why work so hard or waste time training so many hours?
The shoes already worked for the original owner, why not you?
If the idea of this sounds a bit absurd, I invite you to stay with me on this a minute.
This is the world we live in!
Millions of people are running around in other people’s shoes, trying to run other people’s races.
I see so many entrepreneurs stumbling to get their feet on the ground, and unable to gain enough traction to get up to speed – let alone find the stamina to stay in the race.
Many of them look up along the way, and realize they’re tired, lost, broke, and nowhere near the finish line of their dreams.
When I look at why this is...
Nowadays, everywhere you look someone is touting the virtues of living your passion. That sounds all well and good, but what does it even mean? How does one go about actually doing that? Although your path to living a passionate life will undoubtedly be as unique as you, there is a lot to be learned from the daring souls doing just that!
Here are the secrets I’ve uncovered in my research and along my own journey to help you get there faster.
There is no right or wrong passion to pursue; only the one that aligns with who you are at your core. Gaining greater clarity of what you truly long for is a critical step. Follow your interests, your curiosities, your fascinations and your joy – it will lead you to discover your passion!
Many people want to live a life of passion; few are committed to it. Having a big vision can tip the scales of commitment, giving you a reason bigger than yourself. Adopt the...
On a recent trip to Ireland I was reminded of one of my driving values in life – freedom.
Ironically, it came to me while driving!
As I watched my friends navigate the busy streets of Dublin, from the “right” side of the car, on the left side of the road, my anxiety started to rise. In just a few days, I was going to be picking up my own rental car and heading out by myself to explore the Irish countryside.
Witnessing my friends making a few mistakes and after a couple close calls, I started to doubt my capability. I found myself contemplating other options and wondering if I was crazy to think I could do it alone. After all, they had the rest of us helping to navigate directions and reminding them which lane was the correct one. I was going to be alone, without even my trusty Google Maps to help me.
Perhaps I should just take a bus or train?
Maybe a few taxis wouldn’t cost too much?
Do they have Uber in Ireland?
Or, I could always...
I’m in the middle of packing for Ireland and doing my best to pack lightly, when I see a pattern I’m not too proud of.
Last time I was in Europe, I took way too much! It was such a hassle! I didn’t need all the clothes, all the shoes, all the toiletries, power cords and notebooks. You would’ve thought I was moving there!
The mistake resulted in me buying a new backpack and leaving most of my things at a friend’s house – while I toured around (less encumbered).
Attempting to avoid the error again, I consider why it happened.
I was stuck in scarcity!
I was afraid of not having what I needed.
I was afraid of going without.
I wasn’t valuing what I really “wanted” – which was to travel around easily and not weighed down, (especially riding the European railways).
My “need” for stuff, quickly shifted toward a “want” for ease.
This clarity around needs and wants...
Overwhelm isn’t a problem; it’s a symptom.
Coaching individuals through an intense transformational training program has brought up the issue of overwhelm on more than one occasion. Many new participants blame the structure of the program, or try and convince me their life is so busy right now, or they have more important things to worry about. Some of them believe the ways of being or methods of communication of their fellow teammates are the cause for overwhelm, and often turn off the notifications on their phones in futile effort to evade.
Knowing this program has been designed to imitate life, and set them up for success after they graduate, I know the reason is somewhere outside of their immediate consciousness. The awareness of this, and a commitment to help them breakthrough this limiting belief, motivates me to dive into this subject a little deeper.
Now, more than ever, I believe overwhelm isn’t the problem; it’s a symptom.
The other night, sweat pouring down the back of my shoulders, into the small of my back, while my leg muscles strained to maintain the stance, and I attempted to quiet my short, heavy breath, I finally got it. It suddenly all made sense. This wasn’t the first time I had subjected myself to the intense heat of a hot yoga studio, or my body to the foreign postures associated with the practice, but it was the first time it finally clicked. Parallels between the practice of yoga and the journey of finding fabulous seemed to scream down at me through the silence of the overcrowded studio. As the instructor lead us through the poses, stopping to give more direction or just checking in to see if we were still breathing, I suddenly wondered if he could be referring to my life more than my yoga practice.
This is what he said, and more importantly what it taught me…
Lesson 1: Set an Intention
As is tradition, in most yoga studios, the instructor...
Every year, (Canadian) Thanksgiving is transition time for me.
Staring out at the rainbow of colours transforming the woods around me, I can't help relating to the beautiful, deciduous trees - preparing to shed this year's growth in sacrifice for what's to come.
Packing up and closing my house for the season, they remind me that change (as beautiful as it can be), always comes with some level of loss. Sometimes it's simply a loss of comfort and familiarity, other times a complete shedding of what is no longer needed.
And so, while I feel gratitude for my time at the lake, and excitement for the adventures to come, I'm also struck by a sort of sadness and uneasiness this time of year - what will change for me this season, and what might I lose in the process?
It’s the process that causes me the anxiety – the “in-between-time”.
Maybe it’s my impatience.
Maybe it’s my need to have everything “figured out”.